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Coaches and Eating Disorders

The first time a young woman came to me and said, “I am making myself throw up”, you know what my response was? “Well, stop making yourself throw up.” Yes, that was my response. That was 16 years ago, and I still remember my response. It haunts me. I think about how she must have felt after finding the courage to finally tell someone this sacred secret and my response was, “Well, stop it”, as if that were an option. It absolutely pains my soul and breaks my heart. I am so thankful that she gave me another chance....

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Positive (but real) Self Talk

I got such an overwhelming response from my last blog post about Thinking Positive that I want to keep talking about it. I think we have been so confused on this whole idea of thinking positive. The reality is that we don’t have a switch that we can flip and suddenly be joyful and cheerful and feel like life is grand. We are allowed to be positive, but real. So, let me bring this idea into “positive self talk” that we always hear about in sports. I was speaking to one of my Olympic clients a few weeks ago...

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Just Think Positive?

This fall I got a call from one of my college clients. She’s a Division I elite level swimmer. She was at a competition and struggling with “thinking positive”. If you know anything about college swimming, once competitions start in September, they don’t stop until your late November or early December invitational. Add school work into that equation and making up school for travel days, and it can be brutal! And she was exhausted. She didn’t want to be there, she was tired and she was having a hard time finding a good attitude. She admitted it. And when...

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Dear Male Coaches That Coach Female Athletes

To: Male Coaches that Coach Female Athletes (husbands and dads too) Let me piggy back off of my last blog, I Got Wires, and continue talking about the differences in men’s minds and women’s minds. You know, the funny thing is that no one ever fights me on this. There isn’t a husband out there that doesn’t know without a doubt that his wife’s mind works in a completely different way. We all know men are from mars and women are from Venus, yet we aren’t grasping the concept that since our brains are so different, maybe, just maybe,...

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I Got Wires

Ladies, Ever hear this advice? You’re thinking too much, stop overthinking everything! Just think positive! Just relax and don’t think about it! Stop making it so much more complicated than it needs to be! Just be confident! I think we can all say in unison, YES. And when we get what sounds like such simple advice, we try to implement it. And we fail miserably. One of the simplest and most brilliant descriptions of the difference between a man’s brain and a woman’s brain I’ve heard is this: Men’s brains are broken into boxes. He has a job box,...

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